Is this all too much?

Before this blog was created I was not the one who thought it was a good idea to create it. I just closed my private practice to be home with my two soon to be three very little kids. I shared my sadness with my husband that I wouldn’t be able to connect and communicate with people like I was able to with my private practice, it was a place I loved.

If you know me, you know I am not a know it all. I am greatly passionate about the concept that we know more than we think we know, and we are stronger than we feel to be. My private practice was not rooted around my expertise as much as it was as me being curious about my clients lives and how we can use what they know to grow. I would support and help, I would give advice and I would teach, but I didn’t want to be the expert of someone elses life.

This feeling of sharing what I believe to be the “right” or a “good thing to do” has put me in a weird place. To share it with the world. Anyone can create a blog, anyone can make a page on Facebook, etc. There are no qualifications to sharing your opinion, you just need to have them. While you could argue my masters degree in Marriage and Family Therapy, my post masters in Medical Family Therapy and my countless trainings in child development, behavior therapy and maternal mental health could make me more of an expert than others it still didn’t sit well. I am used to meeting someone, learning about them before helping them feel more at home and in control of their life and feelings.

Putting my thoughts out there so anyone in any stage of life can read them may not be helpful. We have also become knowledge junkies. I still have some tele-counseling clients and I have one that is very into listening to podcasts and reading articles and blogs on topics of anxiety, grief and returning to wholeness. Great, right? No. The problem is its too much. She is trying so many approaches at the same time then feels confused and overwhelmed and then gives up. As I said to her as an example, there are hundreds of “diets” out there. If you were to try 4 different healthy lifestyles all at the time time you would loose your mind. Everyone telling you something slightly different, suggesting one food to be good for you and another to say in moderation. One to suggest high impact cardio is great, while the other suggests pilates. It doesn’t mean they are wrong, it means we cannot do it all, all at the same time. It also means we are all different. The more we learn about who we are the better prepared we are to know if we are a cross fit person or a yoga person.

People are looking for answers these days. We are cruel on social media, we feel alone in our real life and seek out comfort in our digital one. We want to be better, do better but read or listen about all these different ways and end feeling overwhelmed by the possibilities or feeling inadequate.

This is why I took a break. I don’t want to be apart of that problem. I don’t want someone to read some things, think they are a good idea but also read another blog about something similar and feel they can’t do it all.

So, with that being said I am working on my next serious blog (meaning not one about what one of my crazy kids did). It will be about YOU. Learning more about YOU, the mom, the woman, the wife, the daughter, the friend. It will be about knowing who you are so when you do traverse the deep world of online literature you can have your own filters up knowing what is a good fit and what isn’t.